In the Media – When your friend is pregnant
Latina Magazine (screenshot)
December 14, 2015
Writing for Latina Magazine, Cristina Arreola wrote about the complications occur when a friend is pregnant and you’re not. In her article, “What to expect when your friend is expecting,” Arreola wrote:
Best friends have encountered and overcome every major life experience together: high school, college graduation, first love, heartbreak, career changes, marriage and more.
But what happens to your friendship when you add another itty-bitty person to the mix? Like it or not, a baby will change your friendship forever — but that isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
She interviewed Dr. Levine to ask for some tips on dealing with a pregnant BFF:
“It’s natural to compare ourselves to our best friends and use them as yardsticks for measuring our achievement of our own goals and ambitions,” Levine says. “If you are trying to get pregnant and haven’t, you may feel jealous of a friend who has gotten pregnant, especially if it seems to have come so easily to her. While she is caught up in the excitement, you might feel as if she has left you behind in the dust.”
You can read the article in its entirety on Latina.com
Category: KEEPING FRIENDS
I decided, if I can’t be happy for a friend’s good news, I probably shouldn’t be her friend. I’m not talking about moments of envy, but the inability to feel happy when good things happen. If I can’t be happy for anyone, I need to get myself some good therapy because the issue is me. If the problem is with one particular friend and I could be for another in the same circumstance, I need to realize I’m not being a good friend.
I learned this lesson from a friend of mine who was never happy for anyone. She personified sour grapes and it just wasn’t pretty. I also wondered what she said and thought about me behind my back.