In the Media – When you get engaged and your friend gets jealous
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When a woman gets engaged, an air of anticipation and excitement surrounds her. It often involves the frenzy of wedding planning and receiving well wishes from friends, family and colleagues.
But sometimes a bride realizes that not everyone is sharing her joy. It’s especially disappointing when a close friend seems to harbor envy or resentment. If it is someone the bride planning to incorporate in her wedding party, it can get downright messy.
Writing for Brides, Jillian Kramer paints such a scenario:
Whether she was caught by surprise or feels threatened that your impending nuptials will ruin your otherwise solid and emotionally stable friendship, your best friend is jealous of your engagement. What’s a girl to do?
How a bride responds to a jealous friend depends on the reason for the reaction. It could simply be that your friend was caught off guard and needs to be reassured that she is still important to you.
Kramer interviewed The Friendship Doctor who offered some advice:
Regardless of why your friend has turned green over your engagement, “try to be sensitive to her feelings,” Levine suggests.
“For example, you will want to temper your ebullience if she seems to be depressed over your engagement or anything negative going on in her life. You may want to emphasize some of the positives in her that you admire — whether it’s her relationship with her family or her success at work.”
You can read the article in its entirety on Brides.com/
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I totally get this one.. I was married, 10 yrs after most of my friends and co-workers. I was always happy for them, and shared in their excitement, at first. But when, it’s all ya hear, day in and day out.. it becomes tough.
Weddings, become all consuming, friends don’t really want the blow by blow of every detail.
When my time did come, I never told anyone about my engagement, and very little about the wedding plans, knowing how I felt when that was the only talk at the lunchtable at work..
You are wise. IMO it should be about the marriage not the wedding.
Actually I feel the same about baby announcements. There’s a time to be aware and sensitive. Blasting details isn’t classy.