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In the Media – The mean girl habit you need to break (Refinery29.com)

Published: January 27, 2016 | Last Updated: January 27, 2016 By | 4 Replies Continue Reading
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January 26, 2016

Writing for Refinery 29, Vanessa Golembewski talks about the “mean girl” tendency of two women ganging up against a third. It’s a situation often encountered when two roommates have been living together, form a close bond, and a third person suddenly enters the picture.

Golembewski recounts her own real-life s situation and also interviewed several experts for this article, including Dr. Levine. She writes:

But the two-against-one dynamic can also mask deep-seated insecurity. Irene S. Levine, PhD, professor of psychiatry at the NYU School of Medicine and author of The Friendship Blog, says “it’s very common for two people to hang up on a third when you’re living together” because “the relationships between three people aren’t equal.”

Maybe two of you have a lot more in common, like you both love hate-watching The Bachelor. Dr. Levine says,“It may be that these two people, or one of them, is insecure, has low self-esteem, is jealous of the third person. They want this affiliation to gang up against the third person.”

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  1. Latasha says:

    Carrying on this way after College(actually, should end in High School)shows a sign of dependency and immaturity. At some point you have to stand on own two feet and be an Adult Woman with an opinion of your won, an income of your own and the ability to function on your own. Until you can do all those things, you are nothing more but a little girl in a woman’s body. Grow up and when and if you do, perhaps you will be allowed to sit at the Adult Table … maybe.

  2. Renee2776 says:

    It’s really sad that this occurs. Pretty laughable and ridiculous but sometimes people never grow up.

  3. Latasha says:

    That’s High School or maybe if your are regressive it carries over into College years but after that, it has no place in an adult environment; not in the Workplace & certainly not in a marriage messing everything up for two men who have been friends way before anyone was married to anyone in this scenario. It just doesn’t facilitate anything good. If you are doing this and you are an adult woman married or not congratulations, you are a card carry, how shall I say this, mmm? Ok, let’s keep it clean, a “Card-Carrying Drama-Mama,” come back when you grow up and maybe, just maybe, you will be allowed to sit at the adult table with the other grownups.

  4. Suzyq says:

    Two or four friends yes, but three?! It never works as friendship – well good one with girls.

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