Tag: shared history

When a friend becomes a frenemy

Published: December 20, 2011 | Last Updated: December 20, 2011 By | 6 Replies Continue Reading

Even when you know it’s time to let go, it’s hard to give up shared history and to risk damaging some of the friendships you have in common   QUESTION Good Morning, My friend "S" and I have been friends since high school but we took a break from our friendship between 2008-2009. She was […]

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Is a less-than-perfect friend better than no friend at all?

Published: June 27, 2011 | Last Updated: May 14, 2020 By | 17 Replies Continue Reading

It’s so easy to become attached to the idea of "having a best friend" that we ignore the reality of a flawed friendship.   QUESTION Dear Irene, There’s a girl who I thought was my best friend forever whom I’ve grown to dislike. I feel guilty for wanting to dump her, but I don’t know […]

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Different strokes: Can this friendship survive?

Published: July 9, 2010 | Last Updated: July 10, 2010 By | Reply Continue Reading

QUESTION Hi, I’ve had the same best friend for more than 20 years. We were so close that we even have matching tattoos. We don’t live near each other, but have maintained contact and been through school, marriage, kids, etc together. She’s been a huge part of my life.   Things started getting tough a […]

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It’s hard to say goodbye to a BFF, even if she’s a narcissist

Published: June 11, 2010 | Last Updated: June 11, 2010 By | Reply Continue Reading

QUESTION Dear Irene, I met my former BFF on the first day of college almost nine years ago. A year later, I went to a party she was throwing and met my now fiancé, who is great friends with her brothers. She was always a high maintenance friend; she was more concerned with having tons […]

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A breakdown of trust: When long-time friends fight over a guy

Published: February 8, 2010 | Last Updated: February 8, 2010 By | 1 Reply Continue Reading

QUESTION Dear Dr. Levine, For the past six to eight months I’ve had two friendships deteriorate. Jillian had been my friend for about 15 years. We never partied or saw much of each other due to distance and her ten-year relationship with a guy yet we always kept in touch. When her relationship was over, […]

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Friendship by the Book: I’m So Happy for You

Published: November 21, 2009 | Last Updated: June 11, 2021 By | Reply Continue Reading

You may not be able to picture yourself in a relationship like that of Wendy and her college friend Daphne but in the larger-than-life caricatures of two quintessential New Yorkers, novelist Lucinda Rosenfeld captures the essence of many close female friendships. Daphne Uberoff is stunningly beautiful and has all the trappings of material success; Wendy […]

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A ‘best friend’ who is always critical

Published: August 9, 2009 | Last Updated: August 9, 2009 By | 1 Reply Continue Reading

QUESTION Dear Irene, I am 24 and my best friend is the same age as well. We used to enjoy hanging out together but she acts like she doesn’t enjoy being around me anymore. She always says things like, "Why do you do this or that?" and "Grow up" or “Why did you….” I haven’t […]

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Who is Kristan Cole? Sarah Palin’s BFF

Published: July 8, 2009 | Last Updated: February 10, 2017 By | 1 Reply Continue Reading

They both grew up in Wasilla and they’ve known each other for some 40 years since they attended the same elementary school. Each is an ambitious, outspoken, competitive, conservative, God-fearing, married, working mom with five kids. They live seven miles apart in a state whose area is so vast that it exceeds that of Texas, […]

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Downgrading a disappointing friendship

Published: May 17, 2009 | Last Updated: May 19, 2009 By | 4 Replies Continue Reading

QUESTION Hello, I have been struggling over this issue for so long and do not know what to do. I am 37 years old and have had a close friendship with a girl since second grade. Since then, we have been BFFs. After 7th grade I moved away, but we stayed connected and visited each […]

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Friendship by the Book: Second Chance by Jane Green

Published: February 12, 2009 | Last Updated: July 12, 2021 By | Reply Continue Reading

“There’s just something about getting together with people who have always known you,” remarks Olivia, one of the thirty-something characters in Second Chance by Jane Green (Viking, 2007). With a storyline that is somewhat reminiscent of the 1983 move, The Big Chill, when a childhood friend (Tom) dies tragically, it sets the stage for four […]

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