Tag: reader Q & A

Working with an ex-friend: Should she stay or should she go?

Published: May 23, 2010 | Last Updated: May 24, 2010 By | Reply Continue Reading

QUESTION Dear Irene, I started a job approximately a year ago and met a woman with whom I became friends immediately. She was fun to be with and an interesting person. The only drawback was that she seemed to constantly talk about people and write off friends the minute she felt they had done her […]

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Contending with the Food Police

Published: May 20, 2010 | Last Updated: May 21, 2010 By | 3 Replies Continue Reading

QUESTION Dear Irene, What can you say to buddies in this situation to get them off your back: You go to a restaurant. They order burgers and fries. You order a salad. They mock you and proceed with comments like "That’s not real food. Why do you always get a salad? Are you trying to […]

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Passed over as a Godmother: Dealing with the hurt

Published: May 10, 2010 | Last Updated: May 10, 2010 By | 7 Replies Continue Reading

QUESTION Dear Irene, I am an only child and have a friend named Linda (who is also an only) whom I’ve known since first grade. She is due to give birth to a baby girl and two months ago asked me to throw her shower for 50 people with the help of her mother and […]

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A carpool friendship: Has it reached a dead end?

Published: April 28, 2010 | Last Updated: December 9, 2014 By | 1 Reply Continue Reading

Losing a job and a husband at once (whether or not she liked them) is tough for any woman.

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Friendship and agreeing to disagree

Published: April 25, 2010 | Last Updated: April 25, 2010 By | 2 Replies Continue Reading

QUESTION Dear Irene My girlfriend of 15 years and I got into a heated discussion that escalated into her walking out on me while we were in a restaurant. It was obvious that we were at loggerheads on a topic about which we had opposing views. Her style is to leave, not speak, and avoid […]

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Keeping The Friends You Make On Your Travels

Published: April 22, 2010 | Last Updated: September 5, 2020 By | 2 Replies Continue Reading

The best advice for maintaining friends you meet while on your travels is to do your utmost to reach out to your friend by email, phone, or Facebook, says Ellen Perlman.

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The sadness of moving on and leaving a BFF behind

Published: April 16, 2010 | Last Updated: April 2, 2016 By | 7 Replies Continue Reading

QUESTION Dear Irene, Over the course of my life I’ve had two or three best friends, relationships that ended for one reason or another. Although I have a good marriage with a wonderful man, I’ve always felt incomplete without a best friend. Four years ago I bonded with someone who had been an acquaintance for […]

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Making friends when you’re depressed: It’s not easy

Published: April 15, 2010 | Last Updated: May 12, 2020 By | 2 Replies Continue Reading

It’s nearly impossible to make friends when you’re depressed.

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Spinning out of control: It’s painful to lose friends and disturbing to lose clients

Published: April 2, 2010 | Last Updated: April 2, 2010 By | 5 Replies Continue Reading

QUESTION   Dear Irene, I am 51 years old, married 28 years, with 3 grown kids. I work at a gym as a personal trainer/spinning instructor. I quickly became friends with a woman 10 years younger who moved here from another state. She is 40 years old, single, without any kids, and had been in […]

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Friendship: The importance of showing up

Published: March 29, 2010 | Last Updated: May 14, 2020 By | 1 Reply Continue Reading

QUESTION Dear Irene, I have been friends with Amy since high school, and we are now mothers in our 30s. I have a 10-year-old and another baby on the way. Last August, I got married and that’s when things went weird. My husband and I had a very small intimate wedding: only immediate family, and […]

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