Tag: reader Q & A

Friend Poaching: It’s Complicated

Published: July 12, 2010 | Last Updated: April 2, 2016 By | 14 Replies Continue Reading

QUESTION Dear Irene, I’m 45 years old and feel like a 7th grader due to a mutual friend situation. I have been good friends with two neighbors for over 10 years. I introduced them last year and they hit it off great. I was so happy for them because they both have a lot of […]

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Different strokes: Can this friendship survive?

Published: July 9, 2010 | Last Updated: July 10, 2010 By | Reply Continue Reading

QUESTION Hi, I’ve had the same best friend for more than 20 years. We were so close that we even have matching tattoos. We don’t live near each other, but have maintained contact and been through school, marriage, kids, etc together. She’s been a huge part of my life.   Things started getting tough a […]

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The elephant in the room: My once-BFF

Published: June 25, 2010 | Last Updated: June 25, 2010 By | Reply Continue Reading

QUESTION: Hi Irene, I love your blog and read it all the time; you offer such great advice. Now I have some problems of my own and was wondering if you could help me. I‘ve had the same best friend for ten years; we went to uni together and even lived together after university. In […]

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Shouldn’t a sister be a close friend?

Published: June 24, 2010 | Last Updated: June 25, 2010 By | 11 Replies Continue Reading

QUESTION Dear Irene, Last October I discovered that my only sister, who is two years older than me, has been stealing the money I send to take care of my mother in Mexico. She was managing a property I have in Mexico. The rent had always been used to pay for our mother’s expenses. My […]

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Never a Best Friend?

Published: June 21, 2010 | Last Updated: December 29, 2014 By | 12 Replies Continue Reading

I have a lot of friends that I’m very attached to, and enjoy spending time with….but at no point in my life have I ever been someone’s BEST friend.

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Getting out of a sticky friendship

Published: June 15, 2010 | Last Updated: June 26, 2013 By | 10 Replies Continue Reading

When you feel like you’re in a sticky friendship, you need to be firm and clear about setting boundaries and expectations.

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It’s hard to say goodbye to a BFF, even if she’s a narcissist

Published: June 11, 2010 | Last Updated: June 11, 2010 By | Reply Continue Reading

QUESTION Dear Irene, I met my former BFF on the first day of college almost nine years ago. A year later, I went to a party she was throwing and met my now fiancé, who is great friends with her brothers. She was always a high maintenance friend; she was more concerned with having tons […]

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Losing sleep over a betrayal by a couple

Published: May 30, 2010 | Last Updated: September 26, 2010 By | Reply Continue Reading

QUESTION Dear Irene, My husband and I were very close friends with another couple who betrayed and hurt us deeply. They made twisted and false accusations about our marriage, my upbringing, my mental state, etc. They shared this with our neighbors and friends but luckily, it did not affect how our neighbors treated us. If […]

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Is turning off a cell phone the solution to this friendship problem?

Published: May 29, 2010 | Last Updated: May 30, 2010 By | 1 Reply Continue Reading

QUESTION Hi Irene, My friend and I are best friends and I care about her a great deal. She calls me A LOT! I don’t mind that but the problem is that if I don’t pick up the phone she gets really upset. Many times, I have tried to explain to her that I don’t […]

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Finding a Bunco group, one player at a time

Published: May 27, 2010 | Last Updated: May 27, 2010 By | 4 Replies Continue Reading

QUESTION Dear Irene, First of all, thank you for your blog and columns; I’ve gained much insight from you. I am a 42-year-old mother of two boys and I have always had trouble making friends. I’ve read countless books on the subject of relationships and intellectually, I know what to do: Be open, smile, ask […]

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