Tag: fractured friendships

Friendship by the Book: An interview with Alexa Young, author of Frenemies

Published: June 28, 2008 | Last Updated: November 27, 2012 By | 2 Replies Continue Reading

Some of the most painful and unexpected girlfriend breakups occur during the roller-coaster middle-school years. Alexa Young’s engaging new teen novel, Frenemies (HarperTeen, 2008) is a book that moms will want their daughters to read in preparation for this rude awakening. The book tells the story of two eighth-graders and BFFs, Halley Brandon and Avalon Greene, who have always agreed on everything. But after spending a summer apart, they’ve changed—physically, emotionally, socially, intellectually.

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Reader Q & A: Help! Can collateral damage be avoided in a breakup?

Published: June 11, 2008 | Last Updated: March 17, 2015 By | 2 Replies Continue Reading

A woman wonders whether she can avoid collateral damage after a breakup.

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Reader Q & A: Sex and the City is Coming: No gal pal to go with!

Published: May 28, 2008 | Last Updated: April 30, 2022 By | 2 Replies Continue Reading

QUESTION: Dear Irene: I love your blog (well, love it AND hate it, because I see myself in too many of these posts!). You concentrate on “fractured friendships” and right now I’m feeling low because the Sex and the City movie is about to appear in theaters…my favorite series, and I have no gal pal […]

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Suddenly single: Female friendships after death

Published: January 9, 2008 | Last Updated: January 24, 2017 By | 2 Replies Continue Reading

A writer is suddenly single after the death of a spouse…

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Friendship and the couch

Published: November 15, 2007 | Last Updated: November 16, 2007 By | 3 Replies Continue Reading

In a recent article in the UK Telegraph entitled, Could friendships be ruining your life? journalist Tim Shipman reports that the American self-help industry is booming as we are becoming increasingly aware of toxic friendships. He points to the pervasive use of the term in our culture—noting the growing number of popular books and TV […]

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When female friendships fizzle

Published: November 6, 2007 | Last Updated: December 8, 2020 By | Reply Continue Reading

Look at the November/December 2007 issue of Baltimore Smart Woman to read freelancer Elizabeth Heubeck’s article entitled, When Female Friendships Fizzle. She provides advice to women on why and how to end a fractured friendship. The piece stems from Elizabeth’s personal experience with a once-close friend and includes commentary from yours truly.

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Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

Published: November 6, 2007 | Last Updated: July 23, 2020 By | 7 Replies Continue Reading

I read a fascinating thread on the balancing work/life forum of the Chronicle of Higher Education. The poster told about ending a friendship with a female friend who was overly critical and judgmental. (In its telling, the relationship sounded toxic to me.) In a last-ditch effort to salvage the friendship, the poster communicated her discomfort […]

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Friendship by the Book: Songs without Words

Published: November 5, 2007 | Last Updated: November 6, 2007 By | Reply Continue Reading

When a close friendship fades away, the passage of time makes it harder and harder to patch up the divide. In Songs without Words (Alfred A. Knopf, 2007), the writing of Ann Packer captures the fragility of female friendships as well as the complexities of repairing friendships when they falter. Lifelong friends Liz and Sarabeth […]

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RX for longer-lasting friendships

Published: October 28, 2007 | Last Updated: November 5, 2007 By | 3 Replies Continue Reading

An old Turkish proverb goes like this, Bir kahvenin kirk yil hatiri vardir, which translates into English: A cup of coffee commits one to forty years of friendship. One interpretation of the proverb is that no friendship should be taken lightly because friendship is a long-term commitment. In reality, most female friendships tend to be […]

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Out-of-sync friendships: A matter of timing

Published: October 19, 2007 | Last Updated: October 22, 2007 By | Reply Continue Reading

Characteristically, friendships change over time. And one reason why many of them flounder, is simply because two friends are on different wave lengths in terms of their perspectives about time. Perhaps her pace is slower than yours. She appears to have more leisure time, while you’re at a phase in life when you are juggling […]

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