Tag: female friendship

Lean on me: But enough is enough

Published: January 7, 2009 | Last Updated: January 10, 2009 By | Reply Continue Reading

QUESTION Dear Irene, I have a friend who was always interesting to talk to because we had interests in common. I always wondered how she could manage so many activities in addition to her work. Unfortunately, some time ago, she developed a serious illness for which she is now being treated. She has been attempting […]

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Reader Q & A: Escape from a toxic mentor

Published: December 27, 2008 | Last Updated: December 27, 2008 By | 2 Replies Continue Reading

QUESTION Dear Irene,   Never thought I’d write but… years ago, when I started my current career, I was befriended by an older woman. She and I bonded and have become very, very close over the years. In the past few years, though, I’ve started to think of her as "toxic" – she’s very negative […]

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Wisdom from Whitney: Rx for being a less needy friend

Published: December 18, 2008 | Last Updated: December 18, 2008 By | 1 Reply Continue Reading

I recently received this post from a reader named Whitney that I thought was worth sharing. Whitney was fortunate to have a good friend—who gave her honest feedback about her neediness— without making Whitney feel totally hurt or bent out of shape. Whitney also seems to have a fair degree of insight into her own […]

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Reader Q &A: Should breaking up be a blame game?

Published: December 16, 2008 | Last Updated: December 16, 2008 By | 3 Replies Continue Reading

QUESTION Dear Irene:   When you break up with a female friend, is it really necessary to "give advice" about what they should do in the future, or is it better to focus on the problems within the relationship you were personally involved with?   I just got dumped by a friend who went on […]

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Reader Q & A: Help! New friend is too much

Published: December 1, 2008 | Last Updated: December 22, 2008 By | Reply Continue Reading

QUESTION Dear Irene:   A few months ago I met a woman and her daughter at a children’s event. We hit it off and even though her daughter is considerably younger than mine, we got together for a few playdates. The problem? She calls me everyday to complain about how hard it is to figure […]

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Nostalgia: One way of handling a friendship drought?

Published: November 19, 2008 | Last Updated: November 19, 2008 By | 1 Reply Continue Reading

A reader of my blog is living overseas with several young children and is married to a man who routinely works long hours. Another woman I know is single; she recently moved to a new town to begin a demanding job that entails frequent travel. My own elderly mother has become frail with fewer and […]

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Reader Q & A: Coping with a roller coaster friendship

Published: November 10, 2008 | Last Updated: November 10, 2008 By | 2 Replies Continue Reading

QUESTION: Dear Irene: I came across your blog tonight. I am thankful. I am feeling desperate for some advice. I became good friends with a girl in the same town where I live. We met in February of this year. We hit it off right away. We became super close really fast. Had the same […]

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Reader Q & A: Trying to find the courage to end it

Published: October 2, 2008 | Last Updated: October 2, 2008 By | Reply Continue Reading

QUESTION: Dear Irene, I am in the middle of a bad friendship and am so grateful to have found this site. Thanks everyone! I am trying to find the courage to "cut down" on the friendship but I am a person who generally will hold things in and then explode. I did this to a […]

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Reader Q & A: Needy Friends: They just don’t understand

Published: September 25, 2008 | Last Updated: September 25, 2008 By | 3 Replies Continue Reading

  QUESTION:   Dear Irene:   I have several girlfriends who seem needy to me. While we all go through difficult times, it seems they always have problems. I am unmarried, with a boyfriend who lives an hour away, I am running a business and my household and they have all of the support – […]

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Four calls before 8AM

Published: September 24, 2008 | Last Updated: September 25, 2008 By | 4 Replies Continue Reading

As long as I can remember, my mom has called me at 7:46AM on every single birthday. That’s the precise time when I was born.  I remember years when I resented her calling as I was rushing to get to work or was taking advantage of a rare chance to sleep in on a weekend. […]

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