In the Media – Which old friendships are worth hanging on to? (PBS Next Avenue)

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Linda Bernstein

December 23, 2013

Linda Bernstein, a writer for the PBS website,, offers six tips for separating the keepers from losers — and enriching your life in the process. 

“Recently, during a routine medical procedure, the doctor goofed. Anesthesia went under my skin instead of into my vein and my body reacted badly. Within a few hours, my fever had climbed to 103°. I couldn’t get out of bed. Even TV was beyond me.

Then the phone rang. It was Joanie, my best friend from childhood, who lives 3,000 miles away. I hadn’t seen her in years. At first I questioned whether a conversation now would be worth the effort. How could she possibly make me feel better?

By midlife, many of us are blessed, or saddled, with long-standing relationships that ebb, flow and often lack vitality — and sometimes even appeal.

“A lot of friendships are ‘situational’ to begin with,” explains Irene S. Levine, Ph.D., a psychiatry professor at the NYU Langone School of Medicine. We meet people at work, then get a new job and don’t have time to socialize with old colleagues. The people we clicked with while our children were little — often the parents of their friends — no longer share our interests. No wonder we consider letting go of these lapsed or sporadic relationships…” 

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