In the Media – Healing when a friends breaks up with you
Greatist.com
February 9th, 2015
In an article called on How to Deal—and Heal—When a Friend Breaks Up With You on Greatist.com, writer Katherine Schreiber spoke to experts seeking their advice about how to handle emotions when a friend breaks up with you.
She writes:
Maybe it starts with you seeing less of your friend. Then suddenly they aren’t calling you back as often, you’re always the one asking to hang out, and they don’t confide in you like they used to.
Or maybe you had a blowout fight and some harsh truths were spoken. You’ve always patched things up before, but this time you’re staring at your phone after sending an apology text and there’s nothing but silence.
Next thing you know, you haven’t heard from your friend in months. You’d like to confront them, but what would you say? It’s clear the friendship has expired and your former pal is not interested in reviving it.
Welcome to the brutal reality of friend breakups.
Click here to read the article in its entirety including several comments from Dr. Levine and other friendship experts.
Category: KEEPING FRIENDS
This is a very good article to read, and had plenty of practical advice. I recently had to end my friendship with my ex-best friend, and honestly, it wasn’t on good terms. I kept asking myself how I can survive without him in my life, and realized that my friendship with him wasn’t healthy.
My best friend told me to let him be, and will realize that he had lost a good friend. That awful experience made me understand that I shouldn’t take friendships for granted, and to be thankful for the friends that I do have. Most importantly, I shouldn’t allow anyone to disrespect me. I didn’t see the point on me trying to work on a friendship with someone who didn’t know how to be a friend.
I did forgive my ex-best friend, but I’ll NEVER forget.
We can NEVER be friends again.
Sorry that this happened to you. It hurts, but time will heal and make you stronger. That is good that you forgive him, LaTrice, and that also you will remember. This will also help you. There is also a good piece written by TD Jakes entitled “Let It Go” and it is very helpful for situations like this and many others.
This is a very good article, with lots of interesting and practical advice. I read a very interesting book entitled The Friend Who Got Away, by J. Offill & E. Scapppell. It’s not a “how to” book, but instead it is a compilation of 20 women’s true accounts of friendships that blew up, burned out or faded away.
I also found this book very helpful after I had a break up with a long-term friend. It was good to read about all those other scenarios and how each friend handled it in practical terms and also in emotional terms, both short term and l
ong term.