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In the Media – How to Handle Being Ghosted (Inspiring Women)

November 11, 2016 | By | 2 Replies Continue Reading

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Being ghosted (being blown off without any reason or explanation) is more common than you might think. When this happens, it can be devastating, causing someone to doubt themselves and/or their friendships. It also can be embarrassing. As a result, many people aren’t likely to tell anyone about it; they might worry that the rejection will be off-putting to other friends.

The South African website Inspiring Women recently ran a piece with advice on handling/coping with the emotional repercussions of being ghosted. The writer interviewed two experts, including The Friendship Doctor:

“The ending of any friendship is always a disappointment,” says Irene S. Levine, a psychologist and author of “Best Friends Forever: Surviving A Break-Up With Your Best Friend.”

The closer the friendship was, the worse the hurt if it ends. But it is especially painful when a friendship ends unilaterally without having had the opportunity to participate in the decision.”

Before offering some excellent tips, an important caveat is embedded in the piece:

These explanations don’t justify ghosting or make it an acceptable way to end a relationship. But, they do lessen your burden. If there wasn’t an obvious disagreement or falling-out that you regret, go easy on yourself, it’s not about you!

To read the Inspiring Women article in is entirety, click here.

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  1. Cee says:

    Ghosting is cultural too. In Asian and Iberian cultures people don’t address offenses but just ghost it. Asians don’t like disagreements and Spaniards “ningunear” people, which is to act like the person doesn’t even exits; this has a devastating effect!
    In my culture, the grown woman thing is to discuss what’s going on, so I don’t have th emotional energy for, what would be in my culture, cowardly behavior.
    Therefore, I won’t even attempt to take acquaintanshps with spaniards or Asians any further unless I live in their countries. Too exhausting.

  2. Mary says:

    If/when I’m ghosted I do look back and analyze which behavior I might have done that may have been off putting. If nothing, then I agree with the article in that it’s more about them than me.

    From the other spectrum, if/when I’ve ghosted a friend it’s been due to malignant behavior on their part. The last thing I want to do is have a sit down with someone who acts and thinks like an entitled, selfish child, and justifies every bad decision they’ve made from a ‘poor me, I’m such a victim’ angle. It’s far easier to back off, give them space and see if their behavior improves over time.

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