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In the Media – How to Baby Proof Your Friendships (Mother & Baby)

Published: June 5, 2015 | Last Updated: October 14, 2021 By | 3 Replies Continue Reading

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June 4, 2015

Each passage of life brings challenges to friendships new and old, but also opportunities. In an article in the U.K. publication, Mother & Baby, writer Maria Lalley offers tips to help moms “baby proof” their friendships and maintain their ties with old friends.

She writes:

When you have a baby, your friendships – along with your body shape, relationship with your partner and just about everything else in your life – can change dramatically.

Whether you have less time for your old friends or they have less time for you and your little one, becoming a parent can test even the strongest of friendships.

‘It’s natural for a new mum to fall so in love with her baby that there is little emotional energy left for anyone else, including her friends,’ says psychologist Dr Irene Levine.

Click here to read the Mother & Baby article in its entirety.

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  1. Maddie says:

    Once kids came I expected my friends to bring along their kids to events. I’ve never hosted a no kids event. They are welcome. I know everyone is different.

    Kids were allowed and invited to my wedding and if someone shows up, baby in arms, it’s not a big deal to me.

  2. Laura says:

    Love the British nomenclature, Irene!

  3. DJ says:

    Great article. I feel that if both sides try plus use the suggestions in the article including having conversations about other topics other than children, not asking your friend when she’s going to have children, inviting those without children to events and so forth is the way to go. I get sick of being excluded from friends family events because I don’t have children (and my partner doesn’t come along with me) and being constantly hassled over both these. I’m more than happy to chat about and show an interest in friend’s children. I’m not going to suddenly sprout a compliant partner who will come to things nor children so don’t expect this.
    I have heard (and in advertantly done this myself) that those without children may suggest things that may not suit children. It’s not about being snarky in your reply but instead suggesting things that one CAN do with children. For example the friend without children may suggest lunch out in a cafe. The suggested cafe may not be suitable but perhaps lunch could still happen by the parent suggesting a more suitable place or a picnic where the kids can run around.
    The other issue I’ve experienced is the expectation by the parent that I can simply take time off work to fit in with the parent especially when nights and weekends aren’t suitable as they are too busy mixing with families with kids. We can’t just take time off work and shouldn’t have to. It’s what pays our wage so we can actually afford do things with the parent!!!

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