In the Media – How to survive a friend breakup (Toronto Sun)

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A friend breakup can be devastating. We share so much of our lives and emotions with good friends—with the expectation that the relationship will only deepen and grow with time. When a friendship suddenly ends, especially without someone having a say in the matter, the aftermath can be devastating.

Journalist Simone Paget wrote an article for the Toronto Sun entitled, “How to Survive a Friend Break-up.” In the article, she writes:

My first real adult friend-breakup happened in my early 20s when I had a falling out with two women I’d become incredibly close with. The circumstances that lead to the breakup are now a hazy memory, but I know that it had to do with boys, booze and my overall immature behaviour at the time. It’s been over a decade and I’ve since reconciled with one of these women, but the guilt and embarrassment I feel over this breakup still haunts me…

…In my experience, the sting of breaking up with a close girlfriend often burns longer and more acutely than the end of many romantic relationships. Why is this?

Paget interviewed The Friendship Doctor to learn more about breakups between friends:

“Recognize that getting over a breakup takes time,”she says. “The closer you were, the more time it will take…If you’re going through a friend-breakup, Levine reminds us that there is light at the end of the tunnel. As she explains, “ending one friendship leaves you with more time and energy for others.”

Read the article in its entirety in the Toronto Sun and the Ottawa Sun.

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  1. Linda says:

    Unless something really “sinister” happens with a friend, I try to avoid dropping them completely. Through your many wonderful posts over the years, I’ve tried, instead, to go the “small doses” route with friends that tend to be annoying or that I don’t want to spend as much time with. When I feel I’ve lost A LOT in common with someone, or they’ve changed a great deal and there’s no common ground, I find I can still get together with that friend on an occasional basis, maybe a couple of times a year or so. Trouble is, that works only if the friend is cool with that too, and it can be tricky to manage. Thanks for the article!

  2. Ben says:

    You durn skippy about this one. It is DEVASTATING!!! The closer the friend the more DEVASTATING it is. A friend of mine who we used to enjoy each others company and laugh all the time together suddenly ended. Worse than a death in the family because we still had interaction in public. I miss his friendship to this day…. 🙁

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