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How to Break Up With a Friend: The WSJ interviews The Friendship Doctor

Published: March 27, 2010 | Last Updated: January 9, 2023 By | 2 Replies Continue Reading

I loved speaking with Elizabeth Bernstein of the Wall Street Journal last week and then reading her regular Bonds column that highlighted how painful breakups can be between friends. She offered some great tips to make endings easier.

Here are some of her tips culled from her interviews for the article

• Take a deep breath. If you’re mad, give yourself time to calm down. You want to be sure you really want to end the friendship.

• Try a temporary separation. You might find you miss each other and want to get back together. Hey, it has worked for married couples.

• Lie. Claim to be super busy-blame work or the kids. The experts are with me on this. They say the time to be up-front and honest with your friends is before a breakup.

• Go slowly, especially if it’s a close relationship.

• Foist your unwanted friend off on another friend. Friends of mine have used this strategy on me before. (They know who they are.)

• Become a Facebook pest. I have a gay friend who has had much success getting rid of bigoted high school friends by making his status updates as flamboyant and politically charged as possible.

• Issue an ultimatum-but be prepared to lose your friends.

Do you have any to add to the list?

 

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