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BOOK GIVEAWAY – Too Shy? A Resource for Children and their Parents (contest ended)

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Too Shy: A book for parents and children

Too Shy: A book for parents and children

Is your child too shy?

Many parents worry because their children lack confidence and seem self-conscious. Kids with social anxiety often feel uncomfortable on the playground, hesitate to ask questions in class, and can be terrorized by the thought of going to a birthday party.

The authors of “What to Do When You Feel Too Shy” (Magination Press, 2016) make the point that social anxiety and shyness aren’t the same. Some children are temperamentally shy but eventually warm up to social situations. Children with social anxiety feel so uncomfortable and distressed that they are prone to avoid and lose out on opportunities to be with their peers.

Subtitled A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Social Anxiety,” this beautifully illustrated 80-page book will be helpful to two audiences: kids suffering from social anxiety and their parents. The book is intended for kids between the ages of 8-12 but may be useful for some younger readers too.

Claire A. B. Freeland, PhD and Jacqueline B. Toner, PhD (both clinical psychologists) encourage parents to read the book first and then to read it with their children. The intent is to foster discussion as well as opportunities for children to practice new social skills and learn ways to diffuse the tension that typically accompanies social anxiety.

One caveat: Although the book is based on cognitive-behavioral principles, it’s an adjunct rather than a substitute for professional diagnosis and an individualized plan of treatment. When correctly diagnosed, social anxiety (sometimes called social phobia) is a treatable disorder.


To win a copy of What To Do When You Feel Too Shy, leave a brief comment below telling whether or not you consider your child to be shy.

One winner submitting a comment received by midnight on December 31, 2016 will be randomly selected and contacted for their mailing address.

Congratulations to Renee, winner of the book giveaway!

The book is also available for purchase on Amazon:

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  1. Leela says:

    Some are shy, some aren’t.

  2. jeremy mclaughlin says:

    My kids can be shy at times.

  3. Lauren says:

    Both of my kids are shy, so this would be helpful.

  4. Lisa Narciso says:

    Well first, I currently have no children YET. My baby girl is due any day now. My sister however, has three girls. 9. 3. 2. The 2 year old is extremely shy around new people. The 3 year old has recently started becoming more comfortable. The 9 year old is sometimes shy around other kids. It depends on the situation more for her. If I win, I’d definitely share this book with my sister to get some ideas with her kids. She is my go to person for my baby coming too. ?

  5. dee Priser says:

    We have one shy kid, one not shy kid, and one who doesn’t like most people…I’m sure they’ll grow out of it. Someday!

  6. Candace Miller says:

    My daughter age 6 is shy. It takes awhile for her to warm up to other kids.

  7. Janice Gabriel says:

    I have no children, so shyness is of no concern there. However, I was just talking to my cousin today, and he is extremely anxious about his daughter, who is so shy she no longer wants to visit her friends. This book would be a Godsend for them!

  8. Rivka says:

    I was shy and have thankfully learned to overcome the anxiety.

  9. Nancy says:

    Our daughter says that she is shy.

  10. susan smoaks says:

    yes we have a daughter that is really shy. i am a shy person too so we know where she gets it from.

  11. Lindsey says:

    My daughter is shy sadly she has little confidence this holds her back from making friendships I wish she had more confidence as she is a lovely girl

  12. April Swaim says:

    My daughter is 12 and she is not shy around her family but when she gets around other people she is so shy! I would like to change that because she has a great, funny personality and I want her to share that with people!

  13. renee says:

    I’m not sure if shy and socially awkward are the same thing…they do have a tendency to become tongue-tied around other people.

  14. Nicole Martin says:

    My 6 year old son is sooooo shy. He even admits it!

  15. Marty says:

    My kid is sometimes shy; it depends a lot on the situation. She can get up and dance on a stage with no problem, but panics about going to a new school.

  16. Kelly McGrew says:

    yes i do and this may be very helpful!

  17. Sarah Gillespie says:

    It takes my daughter a while to be comfortable around people. I’m not talking hours, I’m talking months. She’s very shy, I would love to read this with her.

  18. Audra says:

    My daughter is a little shy my niece is super shy though

  19. David S says:

    My son is shy but it depends on the situation.

  20. Anne says:

    I was very shy and still am. I hope that my little boy will be more outgoing and easygoing.

  21. Pearl says:

    My daughter can be shy in certain situations. She adapts slowly to change.

  22. nickie says:

    It depends on the situation. He tends to be pretty outgoing most of the time.

  23. Jamie Ludwig says:

    I do consider my daughter to be shy, but I shy away from using the term. (I once read a great book entitled “Don’t Call Me Shy”). I refer to her as being slow to warm up in certain situations. I always correct people when they refer to her as shy. Sometimes she has difficulty and other times she doesn’t. Labels can be limiting and people can be quick to judge others.

  24. Shannon says:

    They can be.

  25. DCFem says:

    My son is quite shy and takes a while to warm up to people. He is five so I try not to worry about it and hope he will grow out of it in time. However, my husband suffers from major social anxiety. I would like to help my son cope with shyness and not let it develop into something more. Thank you.

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