Making Friends

Shy All My Life: Will It Just Go Away?

Shy All My Life: Will It Just Go Away?

A young woman writes “I’ve been shy all my life.” She wonders whether those feelings will ever go away on their own.

Published: September 4, 2021 | By | 12 Replies Continue Reading
The Gift of Gab: Learning to Talk to Each Other Again

The Gift of Gab: Learning to Talk to Each Other Again

Social skills need a refresh after the isolation of the pandemic? Guest contributor Cindy La Ferle talks about the skills that will give you the gift of gab.

Published: July 28, 2021 | Last Updated: August 19, 2021 By | 2 Replies Continue Reading

Keeping Friends

Friend With Borderline Personality Disorder Not Keeping Up The Friendship

Friend With Borderline Personality Disorder Not Keeping Up The Friendship

A woman’s close friend with borderline personality disorder doesn’t seem to be keeping up her side of the friendship.

Published: September 6, 2021 | By | 1 Reply Continue Reading

My Friend Has Borderline Personality Disorder

It can be very stressful to maintain a friendship with someone with a borderline personality disorder. Understanding the disorder can help.

Published: September 5, 2021 | Last Updated: September 5, 2021 By | 22 Replies Continue Reading

Resolving Problems

What Should The Borrowing Policy Be Between Friends?

What Should The Borrowing Policy Be Between Friends?

A reader asks about the etiquette of “borrowing policy” between friends. A friend who asked to borrow something from her got upset when her request was turned down. 

Published: September 26, 2021 | Last Updated: September 26, 2021 By | Reply Continue Reading
How The Pandemic Changed My Expectations And Some Friendships

How The Pandemic Changed My Expectations And Some Friendships

Guest contributor Cindy La Ferle reflects on how the pandemic changed so many aspects of her life, including her expectations and some friendships.

Published: September 16, 2021 | By | 4 Replies Continue Reading

Handling Breakups

What Should The Borrowing Policy Be Between Friends?

What Should The Borrowing Policy Be Between Friends?

A reader asks about the etiquette of “borrowing policy” between friends. A friend who asked to borrow something from her got upset when her request was turned down. 

Published: September 26, 2021 | Last Updated: September 26, 2021 By | Reply Continue Reading
What Do You Make of a Friend Who Is Only There To Listen?

What Do You Make of a Friend Who Is Only There To Listen?

A young man finds a supportive female friend at work, who is there to listen to problems but otherwise standoffish.

Published: August 17, 2021 | By | 24 Replies Continue Reading

Having No Friends

Friendship and Aging: Is Losing Interest In Friends An Aging Thing?

Friendship and Aging: Is Losing Interest In Friends An Aging Thing?

Each of my women friends has — or had — good qualities, but ultimately, the positive didn’t outweigh the negative. Is my laziness in trying to make new (better, more compatible) friends an aging thing?

Published: August 30, 2021 | By | 55 Replies Continue Reading
Abandoned By Friends After Death Of A Partner 

Abandoned By Friends After Death Of A Partner 

After the death of a partner, a man says his friends have scattered to the wind. He wonders how to respond.

Published: August 26, 2021 | Last Updated: August 26, 2021 By | Reply Continue Reading

Other Advice

Abandoned By Friends After Death Of A Partner 

Abandoned By Friends After Death Of A Partner 

After the death of a partner, a man says his friends have scattered to the wind. He wonders how to respond.

Published: August 26, 2021 | Last Updated: August 26, 2021 By | Reply Continue Reading
Friendship and Loss: When The Loved One Who Dies Is A Friend

Friendship and Loss: When The Loved One Who Dies Is A Friend

Friendship and loss is a topic that’s not often spoken about but it can be very painful to lose a long-time friend.

Published: August 18, 2021 | By | 3 Replies Continue Reading

Recent Posts

6 Strategies For Handling A Needy Friend

6 Strategies For Handling A Needy Friend

There’s a big difference between a needy friend and a friend-in-need. When a friendship is consistently one-sided, it can weigh you down.

Published: September 10, 2021 | By | 2 Replies Continue Reading
Colleague, Mentor or Friend? How To Avoid Feeling Used

Colleague, Mentor or Friend? How To Avoid Feeling Used

Whether you are a mentor or friend, you may need to set boundaries or you’ll wind up feeling used and depleted of energy.

Published: September 2, 2021 | Last Updated: September 2, 2021 By | 2 Replies Continue Reading
When Someone Has An Emotional Problem: Does That Change The Rules of Friendship?

When Someone Has An Emotional Problem: Does That Change The Rules of Friendship?

A woman is worn out from dealing with a friend with an emotional problem and asks for advice on what to do.

Published: August 31, 2021 | By | 18 Replies Continue Reading