Making Friends

Shy All My Life: Will It Just Go Away?

Shy All My Life: Will It Just Go Away?

A young woman writes “I’ve been shy all my life.” She wonders whether those feelings will ever go away on their own.

Published: September 4, 2021 | By | 13 Replies Continue Reading
The Gift of Gab: Learning to Talk to Each Other Again

The Gift of Gab: Learning to Talk to Each Other Again

Social skills need a refresh after the isolation of the pandemic? Guest contributor Cindy La Ferle talks about the skills that will give you the gift of gab.

Published: July 28, 2021 | Last Updated: August 19, 2021 By | 2 Replies Continue Reading

Keeping Friends

Guest Post: What Do You Say To A Best Friend Who Has Cancer?

Guest Post: What Do You Say To A Best Friend Who Has Cancer?

My only clue was that my best friend had started detailing eating healthier foods in our almost daily email correspondence. She called on a Wednesday evening to tell me she had breast cancer and was having a mastectomy on Friday.

Published: October 11, 2021 | Last Updated: October 11, 2021 By | 11 Replies Continue Reading
When Good Friends Forget Your Birthday

When Good Friends Forget Your Birthday

A reader asks what to do when your friends forget your birthday; she feels hurt and resentful and wonders if she should say or do something.

Published: October 11, 2021 | Last Updated: October 11, 2021 By | Reply Continue Reading

Resolving Problems

My Best Friend Will Not Be Coming To My Wedding

My Best Friend Will Not Be Coming To My Wedding

A woman is upset that her friend will not be coming to her wedding after a fallout two years ago and isn’t sure how she should respond.

Published: October 21, 2021 | Last Updated: October 21, 2021 By | Reply Continue Reading
When Good Friends Forget Your Birthday

When Good Friends Forget Your Birthday

A reader asks what to do when your friends forget your birthday; she feels hurt and resentful and wonders if she should say or do something.

Published: October 11, 2021 | Last Updated: October 11, 2021 By | Reply Continue Reading

Handling Breakups

A Woman Asks How To End A Very Long Friendship

A Woman Asks How To End A Very Long Friendship

There’s no easy way to end a long friendship. Although you’ve decided to set boundaries, it is unlikely that she will be able to change.

Published: October 9, 2021 | By | 24 Replies Continue Reading
What Should The Borrowing Policy Be Between Friends?

What Should The Borrowing Policy Be Between Friends?

A reader asks about the etiquette of “borrowing policy” between friends. A friend who asked to borrow something from her got upset when her request was turned down. 

Published: September 26, 2021 | Last Updated: September 26, 2021 By | Reply Continue Reading

Having No Friends

A Woman Asks How To End A Very Long Friendship

A Woman Asks How To End A Very Long Friendship

There’s no easy way to end a long friendship. Although you’ve decided to set boundaries, it is unlikely that she will be able to change.

Published: October 9, 2021 | By | 24 Replies Continue Reading
Friendship and Aging: Is Losing Interest In Friends An Aging Thing?

Friendship and Aging: Is Losing Interest In Friends An Aging Thing?

Each of my women friends has — or had — good qualities, but ultimately, the positive didn’t outweigh the negative. Is my laziness in trying to make new (better, more compatible) friends an aging thing?

Published: August 30, 2021 | By | 55 Replies Continue Reading

Other Advice

Worried Mom: My Daughter Doesn’t Have A Close Friend

Worried Mom: My Daughter Doesn’t Have A Close Friend

My 7-year-old daughter, soon to be 8, seems to be having some problems, and I am not sure how concerned I should be. I have two daughters; the younger one is 6. Even while writing this I am thinking, they are babies, but I do have concerns about my older daughter.

Published: October 7, 2021 | Last Updated: October 7, 2021 By | 14 Replies Continue Reading
Abandoned By Friends After Death Of A Partner 

Abandoned By Friends After Death Of A Partner 

After the death of a partner, a man says his friends have scattered to the wind. He wonders how to respond.

Published: August 26, 2021 | Last Updated: August 26, 2021 By | Reply Continue Reading

Recent Posts

How The Pandemic Changed My Expectations And Some Friendships

How The Pandemic Changed My Expectations And Some Friendships

Guest contributor Cindy La Ferle reflects on how the pandemic changed so many aspects of her life, including her expectations and some friendships.

Published: September 16, 2021 | By | 4 Replies Continue Reading
6 Strategies For Handling A Needy Friend

6 Strategies For Handling A Needy Friend

There’s a big difference between a needy friend and a friend-in-need. When a friendship is consistently one-sided, it can weigh you down.

Published: September 10, 2021 | By | 2 Replies Continue Reading
Friend With Borderline Personality Disorder Not Keeping Up The Friendship

Friend With Borderline Personality Disorder Not Keeping Up The Friendship

A woman’s close friend with borderline personality disorder doesn’t seem to be keeping up her side of the friendship.

Published: September 6, 2021 | By | 2 Replies Continue Reading