There isn’t much to do when an Internet friendship seems as dead as a doornail.
Dear Friendship Doctor,
I have a long distance best friend/sister. We have been very close and always texting despite the time difference. One month ago, she sent me a message but because I was busy with exams (and the time difference), it took me two days to reply. This has happened before between us. Sometimes she takes this much time to reply so I don’t think that was the problem.
After 20 days she hadn’t responded so I sent her another message asking her if everything was all right. Still no response. Two days later I sent her another message on multiple social media and she is not replying. She has been active on social media but not reading my messages. What am I supposed to do?
I do not want to lose her friendship. She is one of my closest friends.
When one friend loses interest in another—whether it’s a face-to-face friendship or an Internet one—there isn’t much the other person can do to save the relationship. I’m sorry this happened. Your friend’s reason for severing her ties with you may or may not have anything to do with you, per se.
It’s easier for people to “ghost” someone else on the Internet because they don’t have to see the person at school, at work or around the neighborhood. In essence, there are often fewer real life ties to bind the friendship.
Since you have made multiple efforts to reach her and she isn’t responding, the only thing you can do at this point is let some time elapse, perhaps a few weeks, and give it one more shot.
In the meantime, take the time and energy you’ve recouped from this loss by spending it with your other offline friends.
Hope this helps.
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Category: HANDLING BREAKUPS