It can be tricky to know when to give a friend “a pass”—and how much to overlook after trauma or loss.
I never had a lot of close friends when I was younger but I always had a couple, and my best friend was my husband. I also have four children. My husband died two years ago after a bout with cancer (at home) and my children are now grown and live in different areas. Two of my best friends moved to other states and I now have only one friend left, who also moved to another city.
From The Friendship Forums: Is a friend’s response to your loss or serious illness a litmus test of your friendship?
A recent post on The Friendship Forums of this blog expressed the hurt and frustration someone felt when certain friends and colleagues failed to show empathy after he lost his mother to cancer.
QUESTION Dear Irene, My wife died last May, almost six months ago. We were so devoted to each other that we didn’t need any friends. I don’t go to pubs or clubs and am very much a loner. Now, I seem to be pushing people away in case they want something I’m unable to give […]
QUESTION: Hi Irene, My fiancé and I have been together for five years and are very close to each other’s families. My brother-in-law passed away earlier this week and one of my fiancé’s ex-girlfriends showed up at the funeral home and the funeral to pay her respects. They were together for a substantial period of […]
QUESTION Dear Irene, My best friend of 18 years always called me "the sister she never had". We live in the same city and used to talk on the phone at least 5 to 10 times a day and got together frequently. About two years ago she and her husband began divorce proceedings. I tried […]
QUESTION Dear Irene, My best friend and I had a major falling out 4½ years ago shortly after the death of my two-year-old son. At the time I was so deep in grief and my judgment so impaired that I did not apologize for behavior on my part that led to our breakup. It […]
By Lynn Bozof A strange but very sweet thing is happening. Do Facebook and other social media have anything to do with it? My adult children are now "friending" my friends on Facebook, leading to inter-generational relationships. When I was a young adult, I would have thought it so strange to have a […]
Think everyone’s feeling jolly this holiday season? Think again. Actually, the time between Thanksgiving and New Year’s tends to be stressful for many. Some have experienced disappointments, real losses and other life crises over the year. Factor in lack of time and sleep, and the tendency to overspend, overeat, and over-imbibe, and you have a […]