QUESTION Dear Irene, First of all, thank you for your blog and columns; I’ve gained much insight from you. I am a 42-year-old mother of two boys and I have always had trouble making friends. I’ve read countless books on the subject of relationships and intellectually, I know what to do: Be open, smile, ask [...]
We’ve all heard stories of (and some of us have witnessed up close) moms who are trying so desperately to be cool that they opt for the role of BFFs to their daughters instead of moms. But can a mother really be a daughter’s best friend?
QUESTION Dear Irene, I met my friend on the commute to work and have known her now for 10 years. We also socialized outside of the commute. She is 17 years older than me but the age difference has never been a problem. She was terminated from her job (after 20 years) at age 62. [...]
QUESTION Dear Irene My girlfriend of 15 years and I got into a heated discussion that escalated into her walking out on me while we were in a restaurant. It was obvious that we were at loggerheads on a topic about which we had opposing views. Her style is to leave, not speak, and avoid [...]
On Thursday evening, I was thrilled to meet and hear Jeffrey Zaslow speak in my area about his three best-selling books, The Last Lecture, The Girls from Ames, and Highest Duty. What a wonderful storyteller he is, in person and in print! If you still haven’t read The Girls from Ames, it’s now out in [...]
QUESTION Dear Irene, I have been friends with Amy since high school, and we are now mothers in our 30s. I have a 10-year-old and another baby on the way. Last August, I got married and that’s when things went weird. My husband and I had a very small intimate wedding: only immediate family, and [...]
It is true that differences in religion, politics and values can create wedges between people who were once close friends—but this generally doesn’t happen when friendships are otherwise solid. People accept the differences and agree to disagree so the differences don’t interfere with the relationship.
Whether it’s an ex-girlfriend, ex-wife, or ex-lover, most women would immediately dismiss the possibility of negotiating a real friendship with a living apparition from their partner’s past. Admittedly, these relationships are thorny but they can have some upsides. My friend, life coach Lauree Ostrofsky of the Washington, DC area, offered to pen (keyboard) a guest [...]