Have you broken up with a best friend?
I’ve recently called it quits with a very long-term friend, 28 years to be exact (I’m 40). I realized I was in a passive-aggressive relationship for years and found myself completely fed up.
It’s been one-and-a-half years since my good friend and I broke up. As background, I’m 39 and she’s 45. I’m single and she’s divorced. Neither of us have kids. We had been good friends for seven years…met at work. We still have the same workplace and have the same group of lunch buddies. We don’t work closely together but we do see each other at lunch and in the hallway.
I’m having a really hard time deciding if I should attend a friend’s party for her children. We have unresolved issues and I don’t feel that she has been that great of a friend to me. On the other hand I still love her for the friend she used to be and I miss being in her children’s lives…
I’m finding it difficult to let go of an ex-friend. We went to school together and, by pure luck, ended up working in the same company.
Things were awesome at first. We would cry, laugh and do a lot of things together. We ended up sharing a place, which I now think was a bad move for our friendship.
QUESTION Hi Irene, I’m 27 and have never had what I have felt is a real friend. I just got out of a three-year relationship with a great guy but he just wasn’t great for me at this point in my life; I was never in love with him. I have been in a few [...]
Even when you know it’s time to let go, it’s hard to give up shared history and to risk damaging some of the friendships you have in common QUESTION Good Morning, My friend "S" and I have been friends since high school but we took a break from our friendship between 2008-2009. She was [...]
This is another post written by a reader in The Friendship Forums section of this blog. Thanks "Peppercat" for your list of warning signs that your best friend is becoming your worst enemy. Keep in mind, that like love, BFFs can go bad on you. Don’t do what I have done and give them [...]