Going to a friend’s party is different than choosing to hang out or go to dinner with friends of a friend.
Hi, Friendship Doctor!
I have a bit of a dilemma. I have a friend from work (I will call her C) whom I have been close with for a few years. I used to hang out with her and a few of her other friends.
I had to distance myself from two of them: One was saying very unpleasant things behind my back; the other kept criticizing and putting me down.
C knew about the whole situation and I told her I am not trying to put her in the middle or make her take any sides, just that I don’t want to hang with those two. So C and I would spend time together. But now she has invited me to her New Year’s party, along with the other two friends I don’t get along with.
I’m debating if I should go, ignore them and have a good time, or not go and save myself the stress and drama. What should I do? Thank you for taking the time to read my question!
It seems like you have worked out this problem with C and her friends pretty well. You don’t like two of her friends, you let her know, and you both arranged things so you don’t have to be with them.
A party may be another situation. There are likely to be more people there so you don’t have to cozy up to the two women you don’t like; you can find other people. Also, your friend is the one throwing the party. Her choices were to invite you and her friends or to leave someone out. I think she made the right decision by inviting everyone.
If you want to go to your friend’s party, you can minimize the stress and drama by being cordial with the two women you don’t like and spending your time with others at the party. I think you should go and have a good time unless there is something else you would really rather do on that evening.
Hope this helps.
My best, Irene
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