Comments on: Is it disloyal to talk to a friend’s enemy? http://www.thefriendshipblog.com/is-it-disloyal-to-talk-to-a-friends-enemy/ Expert Advice for Navigating Friendship Problems at Every Stage of Life. Created by Irene S. Levine, PhD, The Friendship Doctor Tue, 18 Jun 2013 10:35:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: E http://www.thefriendshipblog.com/is-it-disloyal-to-talk-to-a-friends-enemy/comment-page-1/#comment-21169 E Fri, 11 Jan 2013 04:05:19 +0000 http://www.thefriendshipblog.com/?p=77333#comment-21169 I’ve been in a similar situation where two of my best friends were dating each other. From day one, I set the record straight with both that I loved them and while they were dating, or if anything went wrong between them, that I would not take sides either way. Throughout their relationship, I managed to stay out of their squabbles while talking to both separately and providing insight when I could. One thing I would never do though was to share what the other had said. There was no way I was getting in-between two close friends who were dating.

Even after they broke up, I remained friends with both. What I credit them for was that no matter how much either didn’t like the idea of me being friends with the other after the breakup, they respected my decision and dealt with the fact I was going to remain friends with both parties.

My point…if you have “friends” who will stop talking to you just because you’re talking to someone they don’t like, and giving there aren’t extreme circumstances involved, I would have to question the value of the friendship in the first place.

]]> By: anon http://www.thefriendshipblog.com/is-it-disloyal-to-talk-to-a-friends-enemy/comment-page-1/#comment-21093 anon Sun, 06 Jan 2013 02:33:18 +0000 http://www.thefriendshipblog.com/?p=77333#comment-21093 Allie I totally feel your situation, my ex-bestfriend (Sadly I had to “dump” her a month ago and that’s how I came across this website) was always having some type of trouble with all kinds of people, because of her issues and personality she sees everything and everybody black or white, so those that were (according to her)not on her side or did not have any use for her, were automatically placed in the black-enemies list, which always kept growing and growing. As her best friend ( I am a gay male), I was “supposed” to treat these people as enemies, not only they were not enemies since i did not agree with 99.99 % of my friend’s judgments on others, but some were for me beneficial for my life, my social life, and my business. It got to a point where I was afraid to say hi to most people at the gym just because they were placed in her “enemies” list, the day I confronted her and told her that I was not going to continue supporting her in all her personal fights and dramas, is the same day our friendship had to come to an end. My advice is let people carry their own sands of bags, specially when they do so by choice. My ex-friend is addicted to drama and conflict and I was paying the price of all her personal “wars”. I do miss her a lot but my life has never been more peaceful, also since I am not around her anymore I am surprised how many doors me standing by her were getting closed in my life.

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