A woman feels in a rut—unable to make friends, even though she is on meds and has seen therapists.
Let me start by saying that I am on meds and have seen my fair share of therapists over the years…and I’m in the same rut.
I am a single mom of a teenager daughter (we have a great relationship) and have a long-term boyfriend (not a very happy relationship).
For most, if not all of my life, I haven’t really had friends. I never moved except when attending university. Now I’m in my mid 40s, alone and miserable. I’ve looked at various things such as volunteering or a MeetUp groups and they just don’t appeal to me. I don’t really have any hobbies either.
Any feedback would be appreciated…I’m just so down and out. 🙁
I’m sorry that things feel so bleak for you right now. It sounds like you’ve raised a great daughter and have a companion, although that relationship may be imperfect.
Having few or no outside interests is common among people plagued with depression. Depression can sap a person’s energy so nothing and no one seems appealing.
Given how you feel, it’s understandable that you would be unable to motivate yourself to change your social situation, in terms of making a friend or two, or improving/changing your relationship with your boyfriend.
Since you are already in treatment, it might be helpful to have your medication/psychotherapy regimen reviewed to see what else can be done to give you the spark you are missing. If you have lost confidence in the person treating you, you might even want to get a second opinion from someone who can look at your situation with fresh eyes.
This might be the single most important step you can take to get out of that rut you are in. It’s encouraging that you were able to reach out to me and others on this blog.
Hope this helps.
Category: HAVING NO FRIENDS