Can a mistake threaten a 56-year-old friendship?
We’ve been friends for 56 years. My friend has always been wealthier then me. Her daughter, my godchild, did not pay a bill in time and as a result, she was served with legal papers.
While visiting, I unknowingly accepted the papers. At first, my friend said it wasn’t a problem because the bill was paid.
I did not know what the papers were; no one said they were serving anyone. Now I am being blamed for them having to pay court fees. My friend agrees with her daughter that I am to blame! And they expect me to pay $355.00. Please help.
From where I sit, it seems like your only mistake was being in the wrong place at the wrong time. While you can apologize for unknowingly accepting the papers, you shouldn’t have been asked to bear financial responsibility for what’s happened. Since no one explained what was going on, you had no way of knowing what type of papers was being delivered.
Perhaps, your friend is angry or embarrassed by her daughter and is displacing her feelings onto you. I would give your friend some time to cool down, and apologize once more to her and to your godchild. Unfortunately, I’m not sure that paying the fee would undo the upset so I wouldn’t even offer to do that. Hopefully, these friends will come to recognize that you weren’t to blame.
A friendship of 56 years usually has a strong foundation so I’m hopeful your friend will get over this incident.
Hope this helps.
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