A young woman worries that her closest high school friendship is at risk after school ends.
I’m in my last year of high school and my best friend is a boy. He is a dancer and I know he will get really far in life. I’m going to be so happy for him, but when we leave school, I’m worried he won’t talk to me ever again and he will just move on.
I have had really bad experiences with friendships and I don’t know whether I should talk to him about it or just see where it goes. Maybe I’m scared or maybe I just don’t want to lose the friend who’s supported me the most.
As you know, not all high school friendships are long lasting. That’s because the transition from high school to college is a big one. It entails major changes and challenges, both emotional and practical.
As students pursue different paths after graduation, they no longer get to see each other on a day-to-day basis. Many move to other geographic areas to take advantage of educational or vocational opportunities. They tend to assume new responsibilities as they become more independent of their families.
It’s great that you’ve made a close friend during your high school years but it’s premature (and not very helpful) to worry about what will happen at the end of this academic year. In terms of this friendship, my suggestion would be to take one day at a time, see where you and your friend land up after graduation, and then decide together when and how the friendship should be pursued after that.
One other thought: Limiting yourself to one friend is dangerous. If that friendship changes, it leaves you with no one else to turn to. Also, it may make you act overly clingy to the one friend you have. Try to be open to new friendships in and out of school, both now and after graduation.
Hope this helps.
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