It’s tough getting over getting ghosted.
On the website Headspace, Susan Johnston Taylor writes about “How To Get Over Getting Blown Off.”
Whether it’s a platonic relationship or a romantic one, it’s hard to regain your composure after you’ve been “ghosted.” You’ve been summarily dumped by someone else without having any say in the matter, and you may not even know why. The silence from your once-friend or lover can be deafening.
She interviewed The Friendship Doctor and writes:
“The ending of any friendship is always a disappointment,” says Irene S. Levine, a psychologist and author of “Best Friends Forever: Surviving A Break-Up With Your Best Friend.” “The closer the friendship was, the worse the hurt if it ends. But it is especially painful when a friendship ends unilaterally without having had the opportunity to participate in the decision.”
But Levine says we only think we need closure. “Often the reason for the breakup has more to do with the other person than it does with them,” she explains. “Or, it may be an issue of timing.”
Then Johnston Taylor offers four practical tips for getting over getting a cold should from a friend or lover. These include: adjusting expectations, not taking it personally, resisting the impulse to obsess, and re-engaging with life.
Click here to read the Headspace article in its entirety.