Having a friend who is a no-show is disappointing but it’s worse when she doesn’t show up at your birthday party.
I had a birthday party I made in advance, and invited everyone a month before the date of the party. All my friends accepted, and four of them showed up on time, except for one.
We waited for 20 minutes and wondered what was going on. I called her, only to have her call me back 10 minutes later saying that she just got out of work and she couldn’t make it because she didn’t have a ride. I told her I could have driven her to my party had she asked me to come over after. I told her I would call her after the party.
I called her and she never answered my message. I am upset with her because she accepted my invitation, had plenty of time to make arrangements to come, and it makes me wonder if she would have called at all to cancel if I didn’t call first to ask what was going on.
What should I do, or say to her?
It’s frustrating and disappointing when a friend doesn’t show up when she says she will. When she misses your birthday celebration without an explanation or apology, it’s worse than that. You have every reason to feel upset.
Something was going on with your friend: Either she didn’t want to come to the party for some reason—or something else, totally unrelated to you, was going on in her life.
The next step: If she’s not typically a no-show and this friendship is meaningful to you, you need to ask her what’s going on. Take a deep breath, harness your anger, pick up the phone and let her know you need to talk and deserve an explanation. Hope this helps.
Category: Disappointing friends