she won’t leave me alone!
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November 14, 2012 at 3:07 pm #70676
Xlovelym–I have had two friends like that in the past, and all I can say is ugh! I feel for ya! She is probably just being nice to you right now and taking some blame so she can reel you back in. Don’t fall for it! But I would be careful with writing about her on your blog. I am a journalist and a lawyer, and I would be careful about writing about other people if readers can determine who you are talking about. The truth is a defense, but I wouldn’t want to misstep and have her sue you if she thinks she can prove that what you are saying is false or putting her in a bad light, etc.
November 14, 2012 at 10:56 pm #70777
This is akin to stalking and is scary. I would let her know in uncertain terms that you no longer want to talk to her and that she needs to stop calling, emailing, etc. Then cut off all contact and do not respond to any of it. Save any messages or emails, but don’t respond. If she shows up at your house, I would tell her to leave or simply don’t answer the door. If she doesn’t leave, call the cops.
I was friends with a woman like this, although not nearly as aggressive towards me. She pulled a lot of crap like this toward ex boyfriends, though, even going so far as to go out to an ex boyfriend’s new fling’s home and spray paint things on her garage! She TOLD me about this, too (she was proud of it!!!). The woman was in her 40s as well, but had been pulling crap like this for years.
When I decided to cut off contact with her, I was very worried she might do something uber crazy, but I got lucky. She left a few voicemails and messages, but nothing weird. We are still casual (we will message each other on FB from time to time), but the crazy behavior has made me pretty gun shy. A lot of these women can be very fun when they’re in a good mood (or when things are going good in their lives), but when things go to hell for them, they’re downright dangerous.
December 4, 2012 at 5:27 pm #73891
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December 4, 2012 at 9:53 pm #73953
hey xlovely, I dont understand this person’s behavior, its very odd and obsessive. theres so much going on in the news today, that i would report this to the school. I believe every shcool has a counseling program for students, maybe you can do a sit down with her and tell her why youve ended the friendship and how you would like to move on, and this way its documented. good luck to you.