Friendless in Seattle

I am a middle-aged woman and can relate to the 2 posts. I cannot find anyone that I can truly say is a true-friend. I believe that I am the one that sabotoge friends as well. I was once told by a friend that "friends should not have expectations." I don't feel that way. I feel that I should expect loyalty from a friend. I give my all when I have a so-called friend and it seems as if I don't get the same back. I have always been the type that had one good friend and did everything like a sister with that friend but for some reason I guess I crowded or expected too much because they always ended up letting me down. They never did what I expected from a friend and when I told them about the downfalls they backed away from me. I don't want to leave this world without good friends. What should I do?

I read your question/answer in the Huffington Post. I have this same problem and I did go to a therapist to work on why I am friendless. The therapist never told me though what I was doing "wrong" or how I was coming off...there was no advice at all. Instead it's me sitting there trying to think of things to say and then her saying time is now up. The "getting to know me" process is too long to go through to find another therapist. What do you suggest in that case?