Can Angelina possibly be a lonely girl?

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By outward appearances, 35-year-old Angelina Jolie seems to have it all: beauty, six incredible kids, and a life partner considered one of the most attractive men in the world. Her career success has also been meteoric; she's won an Oscar, two SAG awards and three Golden Globes. Earnings estimated at more than $20 million per year make her one of the highest-paid actresses in Hollywood.

 

Yet, in a satellite interview with CNN's Sanjay Gupta earlier this month, she said, "I don't have a lot of friends I talk to."

 

Angelina was on the ground in Pakistan, in her role as UN Goodwill Ambassador, to bring international media attention to the plight of families with young children in aid camps whose lives have been torn apart by floods and other disasters.

 

Her comment came in response to a pointed question from Gupta about whether she could adequately convey the scope of what she witnessed to her friends back home. Angelina responded that she would tell her husband (Brad Pitt) and her older children about her experiences.

 

So why would this exceptional woman, an accomplished actress and humanitarian, seem to be bereft of close friends? Given the horrors of what she's seen, isn't she dying to call a gal pal each time she returns home to catch up, unload her despair, recharge, and talk about her hopes for the future? Doesn't she feel the need to chat with another working mom about how hard it is to do it all?

 

In some ways, Angelina may be like the rest of us. We're so busy juggling marriage, career and/or motherhood that close friendships periodically take a back seat to other pressures. Maybe she has some free time but friends or friends-to-be incorrectly presume she's so busy---and her world so full---that there's no space for them. She's likely grown apart and moved away from her childhood and high school friends; most of us have.

 

The challenges of a woman being ahead of the pack are formidable. It's hard to trust other women when you have so much more and your celebrity makes you appear untouchable. Or, perhaps, Angelina just doesn't feel like she needs girlfriends right now. After all, she's created a supportive "village" of her own.

 

Depending on the woman and everything else going on in her life, there are times when the need for female friends is more or less important, and when opportunities are more or less available. Yet, a dearth of friendships is often one of the costs that many high-achieving women pay for celebrity and success.

 

Just between us, what are your thoughts?

 

Full Lives.

I work 12 hours a day, 6 days a week. I am so busy that there isn't any time for close friendship. I get lonely sometimes, but, oh well, life is what it is. When your cup runeth over with the life that Ms. Jolie has, well, I can certainly understand. It is not always as it seems. I commend her for all she has taken on. Best of luck from Texas.

Of course she can

It is so easy to be in a room full of people and be sooo lonley.I know all about lonliness and im so sad.I want friendnt seems but it just doesnt seem they want me at all.Today i rung my mum to ask what else wud she want for xmas..she asked me..what do u want..i was very sad.Today my friend i have was meant to go out with me..she forgot.I put myself on a datin site..no one contacted me but frauds.I havent.had a conversation with anyone in 18 days..I have only talked to my dog.So,yes Angelina has children and Brad.but no one knows how she is deep down..she may be very very lonley.I find it hard finding female friends because im fairly pretty and Ange is a stunner..so imagine women either gey jealous or maybe she finds it hard..I understand where shes coming from.I wish i had friends so much..yes lonliness is actually killing me.Is it essy yo turn into a recluse.Do i even care anymore.Someone mentionef numb..im numb and much more.Im 48 and neva married..neva been asked..my children not with me..they were taken frm Govt so i have nooo family..wen im older i will be very much alone and can see myself in a nursin home later..lonliness is the worse feeling and im dyin inside..it feels so bad wen ur not wanted..new years eve im watchin tv for the 3rd year running..alone..if i go out i look stupid as i sit alone all nite..a horrible embarrassin feeling..i guess GOD is with me so im not completely alone....i have talked too much

Angelina lonely?

I can certainly relate to you. I don't even know how to make a friend. I get nervous and think that people think I'm weird if I try...so I've stopped trying. I am taking classes at a community college and that helps a little. Helps to be busy (I am 53 years old) and I have found some interests there that may carry me through the lonely times, lifelong. I do hope that you take care of yourself and realise that there may be something, somewhere out there for you, that will help to at least ease some of you loneliness. I don't want to see you (or me) like this. Please try! Take care and know that someone out here does care about you. p.s. I think that Angelina is quite like us. But she has found that helping the underdog is incredibly fullfilling and she probably doesn't feel too lonely. I admire her.

nat

Angelina started her modeling career early. She then starred in several blockbusters on her 20's. That's the time that many women are in college or meeting new people. Angeline was busy making millions and being famous. She has to be selective when choosing friends because magazines pay good money for info about artists, especially someone like her. She is blessed in every other way; beauty, brains, money, intelligence, health...if she wants friends, she needs to make them.

Well obviously I do not know

Well obviously I do not know Angelina personally - none of us who are reading this do. But from what I have seen in various interviews with her, she seems to be a very intelligent, caring, down-to-earth human being. She seems very wise beyond her years. So I doubt her lack of close friends has to do with her character.
An actress friend of mine once quoted, "Anything you do deeply is very lonely". When you have so much passion for your career and family and helping others, it is hard to not only find the time for friendships, but it's hard to find the true friendships with those who can genuinely understand you. Maybe all the people who try to be her friends are superficial, thinking that they will connect with her because she is a celebrity and they assume she is superficial too. But for all the wonderful work she does, she seems much deeper than that. I think the price she pays for being the kind of person she is, is loneliness. I have known many people (non-celebrities) like this.

Give her the benefit of the doubt

I'm a bit surprised by some of the negative comments about Angelina here. Friendships can be difficult at times for everyone, more so for the very talented or very beautiful like her. Unfortunately insecure women sometimes get jealous and lash out unfairly at other women. Perhaps Angelina has endured a lifetime of this, making her wary of taking on many female friends. Give her the benefit of the doubt - clearly she cares for her family and for others through her charity work around the world. And I say this even though I'm also an Anniston fan!

False pretensions!

False pretensions!

Well....

None of us know Angelina personally...maybe she is a huge b*tch. Maybe she doesn't have friends because she spends most of her life working on a movie set or traveling around the world and taking care of however many kids she has now. When could she possibly have a free moment to connect? How much a comfort and/or quality time could she possibly devote to a friend? Many women have a hard time juggling friendship, work and kids on a much smaller scale. I cant imagine dealing with what she has going on, let alone having her be my friend...

Maybe.....

She has no female friends not because she is beautiful, or she is busy, but because she steals women's husbands. There are loads of stunningly beautiful women who have friends, and do not make the women in their group feel threatened. Beautiful women are only a threat if you have low self esteem (which is understandable), or they are truely a threat (I think Jennifer Aniston would say that). This does not mean that Brad is not the key issue here, but it does not set up good friendships with other women. You can't control anyone else, but you don't need to spend time with women who are a threat.

Yes, I think between her

Yes, I think between her busy life, beauty, success and fame, friendships are likely very tricky for Angelina. For privacy reasons alone she must be very selective about what to disclose and to whom. We all know how hard it is to find trustworthy friends, and most of us don't have tabloids willing to pay for juicy info about our lives, so for Angelina the trust issues are 1000 times greater.

For starters, I think

For starters, I think someone this beautiful and accomplished is absolutely TERRIFIYINGLY intimidating to many of us, don't you? And fostering friendships takes so much time; between her celebrity and her family life, I'd think she'd have little time for friends. It's sad, really, because no matter who you are, I do believe that everyone needs friends, even if it's one or two.

Indeed, she can be lonely

One of the things that I think if I put myself in Angelina's shoes is: who can you really trust to be honest with you as an ordinary person, and not a celebrity? How can you really have time for close, intimate friendships when your job basically takes you away from home for maybe half the year or more? Also, it gets even more complicated with the kids. I think women will willingly sacrifice their need for friendship for the sake of being available to their children. Additionally, maybe that's the relationship she had with her mother. I know that's true in my case. I had a best friend in my mother because of the sacrifices she made for me to live.

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